Love Notes From Nic Are Back!
Welcome to February 2024, the month of love—a perfect time to resurrect my monthly newsletter and Vlog. I used to share these love notes, and many of you have expressed missing them. So, I've decided to bring them back, and yes, I'm even wearing my love sweater for you!
These videos aren't scripted; they come straight from the heart. My aim isn't to sell anything here. I want these videos to inspire you, make you ponder, and perhaps realize that you're not alone. Most of all I want you to remember that YOU ARE ENOUGH. Today, right now, just as you are. You are enough. And hey, ps. I love you <3
Allow Me to Re-introduce Myself
A bit about me— my name is Nicole Mattice, I'm a proud mom and wife, celebrating nearly 28 years of marriage to my husband, David. We're blessed with two incredible sons, Adam and Carson, who are still at home but soon to venture into their own lives. We live on an acreage northeast of Edmonton, surrounded by animals that bring us immense joy.
My Journey to Self Love
In 2016 I faced a wake up call - I reached a breaking point. Despite having what I recognized as a beautiful life, I found myself:
trapped in constant negative self-talk
struggling with feelings of unworthiness and self-doubt
paralyzed by my own thoughts.
There was nothing I loved about myself. There was nothing that I appreciated about myself. I was always tearing myself apart inside my head.
It wasn't that I wanted to end my life, it was that I wanted what was going on in my head to stop.
I realized that if I didn't change something, I was going to take my last breath in this life regretting a lot.
I knew I had a purpose, I just didn't understand it because I didn't believe I was worthy of it.
The Good, the Bad, the Ugly
Through this journey, I've learned to love and support myself, embracing all the good, but also all the bad and ugly bits. Because guess what? We are human. And that’s just part of the deal.
I had to learn who I truly was, how I REALLY thought and felt about things - not just the mask I put on to cover up my real feelings. I had to learn to love the things I thought were so unloveable.
It's not always rainbows and unicorns but every day I’m learning something new, and trying to fall in love with myself over and over again.
And that is what I want for you! Now, onto the topic of this video—
Date Your Damn Self This February!
Start by getting curious about yourself, embracing every aspect of your being—the good, the bad, and the ugly. Take yourself on a date! This can be as simple as sitting and contemplating what makes you, YOU.
Take genuine interest in yourself as if you are you’re newest crush.
Ask yourself:
What do I like to do when I'm bored?
What kind of movies do I like?
What kind of music do I really love?
What makes me happy?
What pisses me off?
Do I like people? (psst...you don’t have to)
Do I like to be around people? (Introverts are in!)
What's my big pet peeves?
What makes me laugh?
What makes me cry?
When is it that I feel the loneliest?
What would I consider a miracle to be?
Am I a miracle? (this one has only one right answer: YES YOU ARE)
So this February, will you be your own Valentine? Will you take some time to write down all the things that make you uniquely you? The good, the bad and the ugly, because we all have it! Will you just take some time and and start to get curious about who you are?
Remember, darling, you are enough, just as you are. No fixing required. So, until next time, Happy Valentine's!
With love,
Nic